Laundry, diapering, feeding, laundry… this is the work of a new parent, and much of it can feel rather tedious. Unfortunately, boredom can sometimes slip into darker feelings of disconnection.
In this episode, Jessica Rolph is accompanied by Erica Komisar, who suggests that one way to stay engaged is to take an interest in your baby’s brain development. Erica Komisar is a psychoanalyst and parent coach based out of New York City.
[1:26] Erica Komisar talks about her clinical work with patients who are experiencing boredom.
[3:05] Interest in child development as a possible solution for a parent’s boredom.
[4:45] Erica explains how to ignite a sense of wonder around your baby’s development.
[6:35] Recognizing the immense value of nurturing your baby.
[7:14] Possible cues of postpartum depression.
[8:30] Skin-to-skin contact lays the foundation for emotional security.
[9:16] Breast feeding, in light of the skin-to-skin contact, has neurological benefits. If you are bottle feeding, consider taking off your shirt.
[12:18] Advice to mothers who have been separated from their babies.
[14:05] Tips to spark the connection between you and your baby.
[14:59] Mirroring your baby is about reflecting how your baby feels; as a result, your baby feels understood.
[16:53] The perils of idealizing parenthood.
[19:11] Does COVID-19 bring more risk of depression?
[20:45] When is the best time to seek professional health?
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Don’t dismiss a new mom’s boredom. It could be a sign of something more serious.TheWashington Post, Erica Komisar